• Mental health,  Wellness

    My journey with depression part 2:Separating the Anxious and the Real mind

    I find that anxiety is a cruel beast in that it is a struggle between you and your anxious mind. A struggle that leaves you doubting yourself and your thoughts. A struggle that happens in your mind the entire day whilst you have to be a functioning adult to say that its exhausting doesn’t quite sum it up. You see my anxiety attacks were extra spicy in that they would invade my dreams so I had to learn to calm myself mid dream state. Yes you read correctly.   With today’s post I would like to share some of my own personal tips on separating the anxious thoughts from your…

  • Inspire Mondays,  Lifestyle

    What are you declaring over your life?

    This was the question that came up over and over in my quiet time. Often we take for granted the power of words but many religions, cultures, inspirational leaders write about the power of words. In Xhosa we say “ukuthetha kuya dala” Loosely interpreted speaking (has power to) create. This made me reflect on the words that I choose to use and how they affect my reality, this reminded me of the quote below. Your words have so much power that they become habit which ,when often repeated ,then becomes your character. So ask yourself are you speaking life or death into your situation? Are you speaking ( therefore inviting)…

  • Lifestyle,  Ramblings of a beautiful mind

    The Best advice I have received

    Hey there and welcome, I truly hope the more you read the blog the more it feels like we are friends having a conversation over some fermented grapes or tea.  Some of my favorite sayings are “each one teach one” and “when you know better you do better”. So to fulfill these sayings today I am going to pass on some of the best advice that I have received and hopefully you will get to know me a little better. My best requires rest My life coach (I believe everyone either needs a life coach or therapist) texted me these words of wisdom one night. It really sunk in, I…

  • Inspire Mondays,  Lifestyle

    Have some fire. Be Unstoppable!

    Before I begin today’s post I need to thank all of you for your support and how well you are receiving my blog and Inspire Mondays. Today I am going to be honest I am womyn down ,sick with flu, but I have deadlines to reach. So today’s wise words are not only for you but also for me. They come from everyone’s spirit animal Dr Christina Yang. So if you are feeling down whether through sickness, Monday blues or because the year is flying so fast and you feel like you haven’t reached your goals. Read that quote over and over again. It is your reminder to remind yourself…

  • Lifestyle,  Ramblings of a beautiful mind

    Self-care time ladies

    We live in a world where hashtags such as #whilstyouweresleeping are trending. I get it you were being creative and who am I do discourage that? However I am curious though does this mean you do not sleep? Does this mean you do not rest? We live very busy lives, it used to be called the rat race but now I fear it is a far faster pace and even more exhausting.  Young people are experiencing things that old people used to think they had monopoly on. We are experiencing, quarter life crisis, we are depressed, we are burnt out and we are trying to cancel our memberships to adulting.…

  • Mental health,  Wellness

    My journey with depression

    Forget about likability. If you start out thinking about being likable, you’re not going to tell your story honestly- Chimamande Ngozi Adichie This by far is the hardest post I have had to write, one of the reasons is that I am letting you in and fully in. I do not enjoy being vulnerable but I believe that there is one person who is going to read this post and it will be the confirmation that they have been looking for that they are not alone. Allow me to be more honest and admit that I really wanted to call this my journey with anxiety, but I have committed myself…

  • Inspire Mondays,  Lifestyle

    Be fearless

    Happy Monday! ( a moment of silence, I never knew I could use those two words together). Are you living in a world of what if? if only? in my time? or worse what will people say?Well I am here to say stop it. The last two weeks have been a not so gentle reminder that life is not only precious but extremely short, we have no say in when it will end.   That is why today for our inspire Mondays.I want to encourage you to be fearless.Do you know that the very definition of fear is an unpleasant feeling due to a perceived danger. This means that most…

  • Physical health,  Wellness

    International NO-Diet day

    “I am so tired of saying no, waking up in the morning and recalling every single thing I ate the day before, counting every calorie I consumed so I know just how much self-loathing to take into the shower. I’m going for it. I have no interest in being obese, I’m just through with the guilt”- Elizabeth Gilbert. Eat Pray Love So today is international no diet day. Yes you read that correctly! It is an annual celebration to promote body acceptance. Including but not limited to fat acceptance and body shape diversity. It is also a day dedicated to promoting a healthy lifestyle with a focus on health at…

  • Book club,  Reviews

    We’re going to need more wine

    Firstly can I just say if I were to be famous enough that a memoir about my life would be commissioned this is the name I would choose. So thanks Gabrielle I now need a new name. The title is not a suggestion it is an instruction we are going to need more wine and lots of it with a side order of popcorn. From the beginning right until the very end it feels like I am with my best friend listening to her regale me all about her life over a great meal and the waiter keeps on coming over only to refill our glasses. Which is great as…

  • Inspire Mondays,  Lifestyle

    Monday inspiration..You are enough!!

    Sometimes (All the time) we need a little push in order to Monday properly. As a result I want to start a little section called inspirational/ motivational Monday. So for my first segment I want to focus on a quote by one of my favorite poets Maya Angelou. The reason I chose this quote is that in the world we live in, we are constantly sold the lie that we are not enough. If we could only just drive a certain car, be seen at the popular hangouts or be a certain size and have the best brows then maybe just maybe we could be enough until the next trend…