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Mental health


My number one pet peeve is saying good bye. It makes no difference whether it’s the end of a series, book or relationship; I hate it all the same. However I am a big believer in having a teachable spirit, this pet peeve was causing me some serious problems. Too many people who no longer served my purpose, weren’t adding to who I was spiritually or emotionally, were in my life and draining my energy.

Something had to be done, I have now mastered the art of walking away. Below are some tips to help you de-clutter your life.


Too often, we do not walk away because we fear change or hurting people. There comes a time where we need to be selfish and put ourselves first, you cannot pour from an empty cup. Prioritize yourself, prioritize your inner peace of mind and you will find protecting it with all of your being becomes easier.


Too many times as women we are told that we need to be nurturers which often ends up hurting us, as we try to change people and heal them of their issues. Repeat after me, it is not our duty to heal anyone, hurt people hurt people. Unless people are actively seeking to sort out their issues let them go, otherwise you will be collateral damage.


A leading misconception is that when you stop surrounding yourself with certain people you no longer care. Not true! Often life gets busy, priorities change and the person no longer serves a purpose in your life. You can still be their greatest cheerleader but you do not need to do it ring side.


Not everyone in our lives is meant to be with us forever. The lessons they teach, the memories, how they make us feel that’s meant to last forever. Know the difference, learn when to walk away. Nothing last forever.


I will be the first to admit that letting go isn’t easy but definitely worth it. I am sure we have all had to learn these lessons one way or another. If you want to share your experiences of having to walk away or have additional points on how to make it easier, please do share on the comments section below.


  • Natina Thumana

    I couldn’t have put it any better myself. Look, i think a lot of these lessons come with growth, age and experience. You get to a point in your life when you stop, look around you and come to the realization that you are surrounded with dead wood. Whether it is in the form of shallow friendships, dead end relationships or a Facebook “friends” list full of people you no longer know or recognize. I could go on about this forever, but I’ll save you from the ramblings and keep in (relatively) short. Point is, it is okay to outgrow certain people and certain relationships. It is okay to be selfish with your time and energy and not to feel the need to force relationships that are no longer there. And last but not least, it is okay to tell people “NO”. To choose the people you spend your time, energy and love on wisely. Too many of us find ourselves “doing lunch” with people we randomly ran into on the side of the road because we feel some small semblance of guilt for relationships lost. Life is short and we don’t get paid enough to eat meals with strangers. STAAAAP.

    • sandyspl

      My favorite in all the truth that you have spoken is that we do not get paid enough to eat with strangers. Its also energy draining, energy that could have been better used somewhere else

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