Author: Brene Brown
Publication year: 2013
Genre: self-help book
“Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience”
When I launched my blog I looked for quotes that summed up how I felt about my finally taking that leap of faith and low and behold Dr. Brene Brown. It bothered me for a whilst quoting someone without knowing what they stand for. However within a few months, a couple of Ted Talks and Soul Sundays later I finally got one of her books
Researcher, social worker and thought leader Dr. Brené Brown offers a powerful new vision that encourages us to dare greatly: to embrace vulnerability and imperfection, to live wholeheartedly, and to courageously engage in our lives.
Some of my stand out moments
I really enjoyed this book because its based on over a decades worth of research. Researching real people who experience life, and she shares her own personal stories. When she talks about her aversion to vulnerability I chuckled (hard) realizing well there goes that theory thinking “you are the only master in avoiding that weakness”(FYI vulnerability is no weakness, it is courage) . There were so many topics I related to but what really stood out for me besides vulnerability was shame.
Shame and shame resilience
She devotes a lot of time on shame, I found it necessary as it’s definitely one of the main things that hold us back. She teaches on shame resilience. Her words aren’t airy fairy in order to make you feel better, on the contrary it’s based on facts. Her words require you to bring down the walls and the facade and have a real heart to heart with yourself. She even touches on how men and women experience shame. Men do not have safe spaces to share their shame.
In the midst of shame she shares step by step of what to do, what she calls shame resilience
- Practise courage and reach out – to someone who has earned the right to hear your shame.
- Talk to yourself the way you would to someone you love and trying to comfort in the midst of a meltdown.
- Own the story, don’t bury it letting it fester or define you. If you own the swtory you get to write the ending“Connection is why we’re here- we’re hardwired to connect with others. It’s what gives purposes and meaning to our lives.”
What I thought
This book requires to be read bit by bit. Allowing yourself enough time to search yourself and unlearn unhealthy habits. I related to her gremlins, I know her shame I see it in me. Reading this book was a reminder of why I started this blog for people to see themselves and know they are not alone. As always thank you for your time do not forget to subscribe ( it’s free). Have you read the book or any other books of Dr. Brene? be sure to let me know in the comments section, I always enjoy hearing from you.